Don’t fetishise

This is becoming a bigger issue in the gay dating world. All this liberation and equality is leading to increased bigotry among us. If you’re white, don’t say you’re “really into black guys”. What does that even mean? You’re objectifying a person with no thought for what else he might have to offer. You’re saying, “You tick a box, you’ll do” like they’re not a person, but a means to satisfy your kink. While you’re checking your racism, think about the way you talk to other guys who aren’t just like you. “Older men are really hot” is nowhere near as serious as racism, and it might seem like a compliment, but this guy doesn’t want to be defined by his age, any more than you’d expect someone to fancy you because of your postcode or shoe size. We’re reducing men to body parts and stats; we need to cut it out. For more gay dating insight from The Date Gay Match​ visit his website and put his words into practice and meet someone new on our gay dating page.